It’s so important to keep the lines of communication open with our kids and to be a safe audience with whom they can share their worries, fears, and feelings. Younger children are often eager to share what happened during their day, what they’ve learned or what their friends said. Sometimes they share more than we’d like them to!
As kids get older, however, it can be harder to get them to open up. Teenagers are notoriously monosyllabic. To up your chances of having an actual conversation with your older child, try talking with them in the car.
While you are transporting your kids from place to place, they are a captive audience. It might be best not to bring up super serious subjects that will distract you from driving or upset your child before a big game or performance, but you’ll likely be able to get their attention more easily.
Also, it’s okay to plan for these conversations. Have a list of questions ready. Your questions don’t have to be personal, but try to make them open-ended. The goal is to start a dialog, not get a yes or no answer.
The kitchen table is another great place for conversation, regardless of the meal. You might ask everyone at the table the same question, such as, “If you could have any superpower, what would you pick and why?” Good conversation can be fun and funny, and can create lasting memories. Plus, frequent casual conversation may make it easier for your child to approach you when they need to have a serious talk.